Not every country celebrates Father’s Day in June, but as the United States and the Philippines prepare to honor it next Sunday, I have been thinking about my dad, his legacy, and how leaders can prepare others to celebrate and honor their parents.

While we often think of honor as something that’s earned, in Exodus 20 (a.k.a. the Ten Commandments), God tells us to “honor your father and mother.” He doesn’t tell us to decide if we think they have lived honorable lives; he simply tells us to honor them.

How do we do that? For many of us, honoring parents starts with forgiving the bad and remembering the good.