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Dealing with Disrespect

May 6, 2014

I recently had a situation where someone boldly and bluntly disrespected me. This guy should have been expressing gratefulness, but instead he was ungrateful and dishonoring.

While I was troubled by this young leader’s attitude and action, I have become more troubled by my reaction, especially by my mental conversations that no one hears but God and me.

“Doesn’t this guy know how much I have helped him? Who does he think he is to dishonor me? Does he realize who I am? Don’t I deserve at least a little respect?”

That last one is the killer. Any consideration of what we have earned or what we deserve because of our leadership sacrifices stinks of entitlement. Warning: entitlement is a slippery slope that destroys leaders.

Jesus never seemed bothered or offended when people dishonored and disrespected Him. Probably because He never felt entitled. He was mocked, flogged, unjustly crucified, yet he did not react.

While being questioned by Pilate, Jesus kept his peace and did not defend Himself even though blatant lies were being told about Him. Pilate’s response to Jesus is typical of insecure and entitled leaders. “Do you not know that I have authority to release you and authority to crucify you?” (John 19:10)

When threatened, insecure leaders always throw around their authority and their title. Secure leaders do not.

As a leader, how do you handle dishonor and disrespect?

Blog / Leadership / Missions

What Matters Most in the Next 12 Months?

April 30, 2014

I recently met with Every Nation regional directors from Africa, Asia, Europe, Latin America, the Middle East, and North America. We gathered in Dubai to clarify our top global priority for the next twelve to twenty-four months. We used Patrick Lencioni’s book, The Advantage,as the framework for our discussions.

The Advantage teaches that organizational health is dependant on leaders practicing four disciplines:

  • Building a cohesive team
  • Creating clarity
  • Over communicating clarity
  • Reinforcing clarity

In order to make point #2 happen, Lencioni crafted six questions designed to help organizations create clarity. Of course, if we do not have a cohesive team, we will never be able to create, over communicate, or reinforce clarity. All four disciplines build upon one another.

Warning: after you read our answers to Lencioni’s six questions, you will wonder how it took us three days to come up with something so simple. The truth is, simplicity requires disciplined thought and rigorous debate.

Here are Lecioni’s Six Questions, and Every Nation’s best answers.

1. WHY DO WE EXIST? We exist to honor God by establishing Christ-centered, Spirit-empowered, socially responsible churches and campus ministries in every nation. 

If the question had been: what is your mission statement, the answer would have been easy. But answering why we exist sparked quite a debate. The fact that our regional directors settled on our mission statement as the answer told us that our mission statement is more than words on a website, that it is actually a useful guidepost for our movement.

2. HOW DO WE BEHAVE? We behave spiritually, relationally, and globally. 

Again, that seems like an obvious answer, but it took time to get to the obvious. There might be a blog coming in the near future about this answer.

 3. WHAT DO WE DO? We do church planting, campus ministry, and world missions.

Of course we do other stuff, but these three are core. If we stop doing any one of our Big Three, we will cease to be who God has called us to be. Other programs, ministries, departments, brands might come and go, but these here are permanent.

4. HOW WILL WE SUCCEED? We will succeed by making disciples, developing leaders, and doing life together.

Each phrase in this answer is loaded with meaning. The starting point is making disciples. We make disciples by engaging our culture and community with the Gospel, by establishing biblical foundations, by equipping believers to do ministry, and by empowering disciples to make disciples. We take those disciples and develop them to be leaders in all walks of life. We develop leaders by identifying gifts and strengths, by instruction, by impartation, and by internship. And finally, for Every Nation to succeed, we must do discipleship, leadership, and life together. If we stay together, we succeed. If we scatter, we fail.

5. WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT NOW? Our most important priority in the next twelve months is to strengthen and expand campus ministry globally. 

This will require us to do the following:

  • -Create a cohesive global campus ministry leadership team
  • -Assess the status of campus ministry by region
  • -Create a global campus ministry brand
  • -Create buy-in from pastors and campus missionaries
  • -Synchronize our campus conference themes globally
  • -Identify best practices

 

6. WHO MUST DO WHAT? The answer to this one is still being processed among our global staff.

Of course, every pastor, campus missionary, church planter, and small group leader in our movement has a role in building a cohesive leadership teams, in creating clarity, over communicating clarity, and reinforcing clarity.

Blog / Discipleship / Missions

Lucky or Blessed?

April 7, 2014

MACAU. For the past week I have been on a small island, that looks and feels like a large casino. Every Nation Macau Church hosted our annual Asia Leadership Team meeting and a day later our China Discipleship Convergence. I wish I could blog about the reports I heard from Every Nation leaders in China, Pakistan, Laos, Tibet, Sri Lanka, and Indonesia, but I can’t because of security concerns.

Here’s my Every Nation Asia summary, in the words of Apostle Paul, “The Gospel is bearing fruit and growing throughout the whole world—just as it has been doing among you since the day you heard it and truly understood God’s grace.” (Colossians 1:6)

While the spread of the Gospel brings great joy to my heart, there is also a deep sadness as I watch thousands and thousands march into the casinos to throw away their money and their future. I have observed a strange mix of greed and hope in the eyes of those coming into the glittery casinos, and a zombie-like hopelessness in the eyes of those shuffling towards the exit doors.

Luck is the operative word around here. Some, a very few, have good luck. Most have very bad luck.

While watching this tragedy play out before me, I read an interesting story about blessing this morning. Many people see blessing as the religious version of luck, but the two concepts have nothing in common. Luck is something that randomly happens to one and not to another. Blessings are often the direct results of our decisions and actions.

It is common for religious people to have wrong ideas about the blessing of God. Consider Luke 11. Jesus just taught his disciples how to pray the “Our Father.” Next He heals a mute boy by casting out a demon. Then He teaches the crowd. Typical day in the life of Jesus.

Watch what happens next, and notice the response of a random woman in the crowd.

As he said these things, a woman in the crowd raised her voice and said to him, “Blessed is the womb that bore you, and the breasts at which you nursed!” Luke 11:27 ESV

Like many people today, most people in Jesus’ day wrongly believed that a person was blessed or not blessed solely based on who their parents were. A person’s family background determined ethnicity and nationality. That was true then, and now. But ethnicity and nationality do not determine divine blessing.

In His response to the woman in the crowd, Jesus redefined what it means to be blessed and corrected a false belief about the source of the blessing.

“Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” Luke 11:28 ESV

How then is one “blessed” according to Jesus? In this passage in Luke, Jesus clearly ties the blessing of God to hearing and living God’s Word.

Never allow your family background, your ethnicity, or your nationality determine your blessing. Hear, read, obey, and live God’s word and you will find the true source of the blessing of God.

Blog / Church / Leadership

Confessions of an Arrogant Calvinist

April 2, 2014

MANILA. I once knew an arrogant young Calvinist who took great pride in his Reformed pedigree: saved as a teenager at First Presbyterian Church, while in high school attended Bible studies on the hallowed campus of Reformed Theological Seminary, bought his first study Bible in the RTS bookstore, took classes at RTS (but got too busy doing mission and never graduated). This guy was throughly Reformed, and equally arrogant. Had all the answers. Had it all figured out. Then life happened and he realized there were biblically valid answers that were not sub-points neatly tucked under one of Calvin’s Big Five. And he discovered a deep theological truth: loving, serving, and respecting people is more important than being right, winning arguments, and appearing smart.

That arrogant young Calvinist grew up to be a “Presby-costal” equally embracing his Reformed and Pentecostal foundations. He also spent most of his adult life making disciples and planting churches in Asia. Yep, I’m talking about me, and hopefully I am not as arrogant or irrelevant as three decades ago.

I’m thankful for my theological and spiritual heritage. God providentially saved me in a Reformed Presbyterian church, then formed me in a Pentecostal/Charismatic church. After all these years, my theology stubbornly clings to its Reformed and Pentecostal roots.

Last week, in the wake of the World Vision confusion, a Filipino campus ministry leader asked me a question about same-sex marriage. His question had serious theological, sociological, and moral implications. That question sparked a good discussion, and this blog.

Anyone who is willing to leave the safety of the seminary classroom or church sanctuary will quickly realize that unchurched students are not asking about unconditional election and limited atonement, but they are asking about same-sex attraction and sexual boundaries. Sadly, as church leaders rehash 400 year-old debates that no one but the “choir” cares about, few seem to be doing theology on issues that matter most right now. The Bible has answers, but it will take serious study and disciplined debate to mine its ancient wisdom and apply it to a confused culture.

A long long time ago, on a continent far far away, Calvin, Luther, Zwingli, and other pretty smart Europeans did theology to address questions that were actually being asked by their cultures and communities. I am glad they gave clear and thoroughly biblical answers to the burning questions of their day. I have learned much reading some of their book. And I have slept much while attempting to read others.

Rather than endlessly debating the minutia of the sub-points of Calvinism, I think we could better serve our churches and our communities if we do theology in order to answer questions that are actually being asked by real people today.

Here’s what Martin Luther said about answering contemporary questions in his classic book, The Bondage of the Will.

If I profess with the loudest voice and clearest exposition every part of the truth of God except precisely that little point which the world and the devil are at the moment attacking, then I am not confessing Christ, however boldly I may be professing Him. Where the battle rages, there the loyalty of the soldier is proved; and to be steady on all battlefields besides is merely flight and disgrace if he flinches at that point.”

In other words, if we are able to debate all five of Calvin’s main points in English, Latin, French, Greek, and Taglish but we have no sane theology of gender, sexuality, morality, and marriage, then we are like soldiers fleeing the battlefield and we are “not confessing Christ.”

Time for serious theologians to engage the battle that is in front of us, not the one behind us.

 

 

Videos

March 31, 2014

MANILA. I saw a powerful video at church yesterday. It made my eyes sweat. It also made me proud to serve on the board of Real Life Foundation. Take a couple of minutes to watch this video. You will be glad you did.

Blog / Church / Missions / Worship

A Simple Explanation for Extreme Generosity

March 25, 2014

NASHVILLE. Have you ever known someone who is crazy generous? Not the guy who occasionally drops a few coins in the tip box at Starbucks. I’m talking about those people who love to give and who live to give. Are you one of those extremely rare extreme givers?

Luke recorded a story about a woman who didn’t have much, but all she had, she gave to Jesus. She gave joyfully and sacrificially. She was not a pious religious woman. She was a woman with a past. A sinful past. A shameful past. A past filled with regret. But she gave Jesus her all and her best.

The reason for her extreme generosity was simple. Here’s how Jesus explained it to his small group of Rhodes Scholars.

“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” (Luke 7:47)

Those who have been forgiven much, love much. Those who suppose they have been forgiven little, love little.

This idea of reciprocating love is the explanation for crazy generosity. So, if we have been forgiven much, we will show much generosity, but if we have been forgiven little we will show little generosity.

Two summary thoughts about generosity from this story in Luke’s Gospel:

1. Generosity is an expression of love and gratitude.
2. Generosity is a response to being forgiven.

I have been forgiven much, therefore I should be extremely generous. What about you, have you been forgiven much, or little?

Blog / Family / Miscellaneous

The Most Fortunate Man in the World, R.I.P.

March 12, 2014

ATLANTA. I recently attended the memorial service of an old friend, Brady Clark. He was my age. And he was way too young to die.

Almost three decades ago, Brady preached at Victory-Manila. After all these years I still remember the gist of his sermon: “It doesn’t matter if you’re in the ministry, as long as the ministry is in you.”

During the memorial service Brady’s sister, Trudy, reminded us of Brady’s famous voice mail message. Imagine the most genteel southern gentleman accent possible, then slow it down and exaggerate it:

You’ve reached the most fortunate man in the world. I’ve got great kids. I love my job. I have the best friends a man could ask for. If there is anything I can do to help you, just leave a message and I’ll call you back as soon as I can.

Brady’s sermon from thirty years ago and his voice mail message from last month sum up a good man’s life and legacy: faith, family, friends, and helping people.

Rest in peace, Brady Clark. You will me missed by many.

Blog / Church / Missions

How Every Nation Churches Started in My Manila Home 20 Years Ago

March 7, 2014

NASHVILLE. This week, twenty years ago, Every Nation Churches & Ministries serendipitously started in my home when a couple of old friends had a layover in Manila. The date was March 4. The time of day was late, close to midnight. The place was my house in Pasig, Philippines. Our fledgling ministry had no legal documents, no headquarters, no budget, no plan, no logo, but we had a clear call from God and a sense of stewardship for the university campuses of the world.

Here’s how I described that night in my book, 100 Years from Now.

Six years after the demise of the ministry and mission agency that sent us to the Philippines, I received a call from Rice Broocks that would change our lives. Every decade or so, I get a call like that from him. Rice called to ask if he and an old friend, Phil Bonasso, could crash at my house in Manila for a couple of nights on their way to Singapore and Malaysia. Rice and Phil’s Asian adventure was a response to a “Macedonian call” from a friend of a friend asking them to consider assisting two new church-planting opportunities in Asia.

I’ll never forget that late night in my house in Manila. Rice and Phil were talking about the open doors in Kuala Lumpur and Singapore, and then one of them said, “We need to plant churches in those cities.” I responded, “Who is ‘we?’ There is no ‘we.’ There is only you, and you, and me.” In 1989, when Maranatha Campus Ministries ended and we all went our separate ways, any semblance of “we” had abruptly ended. I can’t remember the whole conversation, but by the time Rice and Phil left my house, there was a “we” that the three of us agreed to call Morning Star International. God had connected us together for the purpose of “church planting, campus ministry, and world missions.” Phil and I agreed to join our ministries together if Rice would take the lead. We never imagined anyone would want to join with us. We simply wanted to plant new churches, not gather existing churches. To our surprise, as soon as Rice and Phil landed in the USA a week later, old friends started calling to ask if they could join our little church-planting group. A few years later, we changed our name to Every Nation, but we never changed our commitment to church planting, campus ministry, and world missions.

When God reconnected Rice, Phil, and me that night in Manila, it was not because we were all struggling and failing. Quite the contrary—all three of us were leading what most people would consider growing and successful ministries. Every Nation came about because the three of us believed we could accomplish more together than apart. We believed we could be better together.

That’s how we started. It has been quite a ride these past twenty years. Together we have made a lot of disciples, a lot of mistakes, and a lot of great memories. I thank God for allowing me to preach the Gospel, make disciples, and plant churches with good friends all over the world.

By His grace, eventually we will reach every nation with the Gospel.

 

Blog / Church / Worship

Grace is Supposed to Change Us

March 1, 2014

MANILA. It seems like the doctrine of God’s grace is being preached, taught, blogged, and tweeted more than ever. That’s a good thing. But sometimes what is being preached, taught, blogged, and tweeted about grace is misunderstood, misapplied, and misinterpreted. That is not a good thing.

A couple of weeks ago Victory hosted our second Every Nation Worship Writers’ Workshop  with twenty-five worship writers from Singapore, India, Malaysia, Japan, Indonesia, Guam, and the Philippines. Don’t worry, I was not singing or writing. I was teaching the Bible in order to give our writers ideas for worship songs.

One topic I talked about was God’s transformational grace. I tried to communicate that grace not only forgives us, it also transforms us from the inside out. I challenged our writers to compose worship songs about the power of God’s grace to change us. They wrote some great songs that I am sure you will sing in your church and in Every Nation conferences over the next few years.

Why write songs about God’s transformational grace? It has become common to hear a “grace” preached and sung today that has little resemblance to biblical grace. Modern grace erases the guilt of sin, but does not break the power of sin. Biblical grace forgives and transforms.

Here are a couple of verses about God’s transformational grace.

For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age  Titus 2:11,12

According to Paul, grace not only forgives sin, it teaches us to say NO to sin. It also teaches us to live self-controlled and godly lives. Grace is not a license to continue in sin, but a license to arrest sin.

For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ!  Romans 5:17

In this passage, Paul is teaching the Romans that they can “reign in life” not by human effort and religious affiliation, but by receiving “God’s abundant provision of grace.” God’s grace is abundant and it empowers us to reign, to overcome, to be victorious.

Grace is supposed to change us. Is His grace changing you?