Lessons From My Fish Tank

One of our pastors recently gave me an aquarium for my birthday. Because I knew nothing about pet fish, it remained empty in the corner of my office for several weeks. Eventually a fish-loving church member felt sorry for me and put six beautiful brightly colored fish in my empty tank.

My new officemates included two black and silver stripped Amazon cichlids, a couple of beautiful bright blue and yellow fish, and a small delicate orange fish with a black dot on his tail fin and a nasty disposition.

My staff and I enjoyed hours of entertainment watching that ornery orange fish attack his larger and more expensive tank mates.

All seemed well under the sea, until one by one my fish began to die. First to sink to the bottom were the blue and yellow guys. Then my silver and black stripped cichlids went belly up. To my surprise, the last man standing (or rather the last fish swimming) was the fearless orange monster with the black dot. This little black-dotted David had knocked off, not one, but five Goliaths in one week!

Thinking about my fighting fish reminded me of three simple leadership lessons.

LESSON #1: No matter how big our Goliath is, we can win. No matter what kind of giant we face — financial, spiritual, relational, or personal — we can win. My smallest fish killed all five of my larger fish one at a time. No matter how many giants we face, we can beat them one at a time. Here's David's secret to success: In everything he did he had great success, because the Lord was with him. (1 Sam. 18:14) He is with us too!

My good friend, Pastor Luther Mancao, a true fisher of men, promised to give me some tough fish that would be perfectly compatible with my little orange fish. He assured me there was no way "Orange Jaws" could hurt these new fish. These were the toughest fish money could buy.

I couldn't wait to see if my new fish could endure the attacks of the dreaded Orange Terminator. When I arrived at my office the next day, just as Luther promised, I saw my three new fish peacefully co-existing with the Underwater Undertaker. Upon closer examination I discovered the reason for the compatibility: all three of my new fish were PLASTIC!

LESSON #2: Relational pain is a fact of life. In order to avoid getting hurt, many people become "plastic." Rather than being plastic-man, we need to be peacemakers. If peacemaking fails, we must forgive, but being plastic is never an option.

Eventually my little orange fish with the black dot met his match. My friend who gave me the first victims of Agent Orange, promised to give me some real live (as in non-plastic) big, bad, hungry fish who would teach that little Orange Bully a lesson. He delivered two of the world's meanest water creatures (Amazon piranhas), and that was the end of the legend of Black Dot. 

LESSON #3: Like all bullies, my little orange fish finally met his match. Sowing and reaping is an unavoidable spiritual law. It works whether we like it or not. It works in every area of life, especially relationships. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man (or a fish) reaps what he sows.  (Gal. 6:7)

That's the end of my fish story, for now, though I'm sure I will learn more as I continue to go to the ant (fish), consider its ways, and be wise. (Prov. 6:6)

Leadership, Big Brothers, and Big Faith

"I’ll only go if James goes."


Jonathan, my five-year old, absolutely refused to go to children’s church alone. We were in the States and I was the guest preacher who was expected to stand up and be anointed in about five minutes.

In the meantime, all the children quietly vacated the auditorium and settled into their own service, complete with puppets and snacks. They were all doing as expected, except Jonathan. I understood his dilemma. This was not our church. We were guests and he didn’t know anyone in his class. It was a little intimidating for him. He had no idea what evil lurked beyond those sanctuary doors. Fear of the unknown paralyzed him. So, he refused to go, that is, unless James, his seven-year old brother, would go with him. Ah, what a difference big brother makes!

James wanted to stay in the big service and hear me preach. But somehow, I was able to coerce him into going to children’s church. So, Jonathan scooted off into the vast unknown in the safety of big brother’s shadow.

I don’t like to admit it. But, like my five-year old son, I’m often intimidated by unfamiliar situations. All too often, when God challenges me to take a new step of faith, my first reaction is to stay in my comfort zone. Why? Because I might get rejected out there. I don’t know anyone else going that direction. I might fail.

If it wasn’t for leadership in my life, I may have never gotten a passport or a plane ticket to come on that original "one month" outreach to Manila’s University Belt in 1984. Like Jonathan, I silently said: "I’ll only go if Rice goes." Well, Rice went. And so did I. The only difference is that he went back to the States. I stayed. Thank God for big brothers in the faith who constantly provoke us to face our fears and accept new faith challenges.

Daniel was one of those big brother type leaders who had the ability to get people to do things they would never have done if left to themselves. The evil Babylonians captured Daniel and his three buddies. They were hauled off to a pagan land far away from all forms of godliness and out of the sight of parents, prophets and priests. New temptations and opportunities to compromise surrounded them. How did they handle the situation? Notice Daniel’s response: "But Daniel resolved not to defile himself. …(Dan. 1:8). Even before he had the opportunity, Daniel decided not to compromise.

When explaining his stand to the Babylonian officials, Daniel said, "Please test your servants. …Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink" (v.12). We know that Daniel made a resolution not to defile himself. But who are these servants and who is this “us” that Daniel spoke of? It seems that Daniel dragged his three friends along with him. He took them where they probably would not have gone on their own. That’s what leadership is all about. Maybe Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego said, "We’ll only go if Daniel goes." Well, Daniel went. And so did they. In the end, they all saw how God blessed their stand.

Next time the three amigos made a bold stand for righteousness, Daniel was nowhere to be found. When they faced crazy King Nebuchadnezzar at the door of the fiery furnace, they were all on their own. This time, they were not following leadership. They were leading. Once again, God met them there in the scary unknown.

Meanwhile, back to the church service. My younger sons made it safely to children’s church. I preached my usual sermon, challenging the church to get serious about world missions. Deborah and William, my oldest son, heard the same sermon for the 10th time. James and Jonathan enjoyed a Christian puppet show, met some new friends, and ate some snacks. And I saw a picture of how desperate we all are for leadership in our lives.

Thank God for those men and women of great faith who, when they get a vision from God, say, "We" and "Us" rather than I.

Honorable Mention or Dishonorable Discharge?

(This article was written for the September-October 2005 issue of Evangelicals Today with the cover theme "Honoring Your Pastor.")

Growing up in a typical American sports-crazed family, I remember going to awards banquets at the end of every football, basketball, and baseball season and watching as the coach recognized the best players with various awards. Only one player could get the MVP trophy, but in order to spread the honor, the coaches usually called out several names and gave them “honorable mention.” Those who were honorably mentioned were not THE best, but were better than the rest and thus felt honored to be mentioned at the awards banquet.

On the extreme other side of the honor coin is to be “dishonorably discharged.” This is military talk for being fired or terminated.

Honorable mention and dishonorable discharge are both based on what a person does, not on who he or she is. It is based on performance, not on position; on action, not on aptitude. There is no position on a football or basketball team that automatically gets honorable mention. Rather, it is how that position is played that gets honor or dishonor.

The Bible clearly tells us to honor several people. First, we are to honor our parents, not because we deem them honorable, but because they are parents. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise (Ephesians 6:2). It is not our job to decide if they are honorable; it is our job to honor them, whether they have lived honorable lives or not. Parental honor is unconditional honor.

Secondly, the Bible tells us to honor our pastors and spiritual leaders, but not unconditionally. The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching (1 Timothy 5:17). Pastors deserve our honor as they direct the church well and if they work hard teaching and preaching. Some are too lazy to be honored. Others don’t understand that spiritual leadership is actually work. Unlike parental honor, there is a condition to pastoral honor. No pastor is to be honored just because he has a card that says his title is “pastor.”

Most pastors I know in the Philippines are worthy not only of honorable mention, but of double and triple honor.

There are a few, however, who deserve a dishonorable discharge for the way they have mistreated God's people, mishandled God’s money, and misrepresented God’s name. They can usually be found hiding behind 1 Chronicles 16:22 and Psalm 105:15, warning people to touch not mine anointed even though they are much more annoying than anointed.

May we live to honor God and give honorable mention to the countless pastors and spiritual leaders whose lives serve as true representatives of Christ.

God Told Me

A few years ago when our church was meeting in the Shangri-La Mall, we had all kinds of drop-in visitors. They ranged from the famous to the infamous: celebrities, politicians, professional athletes, socialites, wannabes, and has-beens. We also had loads of “normal” people and our fair share of not-so-normal people. But never did we have a visitor like “Mary.”

Our worship leader had just finished the last song and Pastor Ferdie grabbed the microphone to welcome visitors and make a few announcements. (As usual, no one was listening to announcements. Does anyone in any church ever listen to announcements?)

The auditorium was full. The only empty seat was in the front row, right next to me. It was empty because Pastor Ferdie was standing on stage making those announcements no one was listening to. During the announcements, an usher seated a (late) first-time visitor in Pastor Ferdie’s seat. In a few seconds, I sensed two eyes boring holes through me. I turned and, as suspected, the visitor was indeed staring at me with wild eyes and a sinister smile. The lights were on, but no one was home.

About this time, Pastor Ferdie gave the cue for everyone to introduce themselves to the people sitting around them. She went first.

 “Hi, I’m the Virgin Mary. And my three-year-old nephew is the Second Coming of Christ.”

I wanted to say: “Great, I’m Joseph the carpenter. I’ve been looking for you all my life. Will you marry me?”

But I realized that answering a fool according to her folly might cause a major scene, so I decided to respond by saying, “Nice to meet you. And what makes you think you are the Virgin Mary?”

“Because God told me.”

How could I argue with that? God said it. She believed it. That settled it. Or, did that settle it? How do we know if it is really God speaking to us, and not our own imagination or a demon?

By now, Pastor Ferdie was finished and was ready to turn the microphone over to me. As I got up to preach my sermon, I quickly scribbled a note and handed it to the usher sitting right behind me. “This girl thinks she is the Virgin Mary. Might disrupt service. Keep an eye on her.”

I made it through my sermon unhindered. Mary behaved—just sat there with that strange smile and those wild eyes.

But Mary was deceived. Someone or something told her she was the Virgin Mary. She may have been a virgin and her name may have been Mary, but she was not “The Virgin Mary.” She was not hearing from God. She was wrong. How can I be sure she was wrong? How do I know God did not tell her that? How can any of us know if we are hearing from God?

First of all, I must say that I believe God still speaks to His people. I believe the gifts of the Spirit and the voice of the Spirit are just as necessary and available today as in the book of Acts.

While they were worshiping the Lord and fasting, the Holy Spirit said, Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them (Acts 13:2).

The Holy Spirit interrupted their prayer meeting and told them to send out Barnabas and Saul as cross-cultural church planters. We need the Holy Spirit to speak like that today.

How did Barnabas and the others know that that was God speaking? Better yet, how can we figure out who told that poor girl she was the Virgin Mary?

Following are four (but not the only four) ways to know if what we are hearing is really from God.

Confirmation. If you are the only one who feels that God has told you to plant a church in Mongolia while your pastor, your friends, your wife, and everyone else disagrees, then there’s a good chance you have not heard from God.

The Bible. The Bible is the absolute and final authority. God never says anything that contradicts His written Word.

Tradition and church history. Yes, God does sometimes do “new things.” But generally speaking, we are on safe ground if we judge our new revelations by looking back at the historic faith handed down by the early church fathers and the Reformers.

Common sense. It doesn’t take a seminary degree or an extended fast to figure out that the Virgin Mary was not at my church that Sunday. Common sense is a gift from God. Use it.

Yes, God still speaks today. And we need to hear from Him like never before. Why? Because man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God (Matthew 4:4).

Fallen and Injured, but Determined to Finish

1988 summer Olympics. Seoul, South Korea. Eight men started the race. Only seven finished. British 400-meter runner Derek Redmond had to quit because of an injury to his Achilles tendon. The pain in his heart was greater than the pain in his leg as he watched his seven fellow Olympians cross the finish line. Like countless young athletes, Derek had dreamed of Olympic gold. Unlike most, Derek actually had the talent to win it.

Stubbornly refusing to let a torn Achilles rob him of his lifelong dream, the young runner set his sights on the 1992 Barcelona Games. Four more years of training. Four more years of hard work. Four more years dreaming of the gold.

By 1991, Derek was back to world-class speed, leading his team to an upset victory in the 4 x 400-meter relay in the World Championships.

Another year and his Olympic dream could become reality.

1992 summer Olympics. Barcelona, Spain. Derek Redmond is again lined up with seven others in the 400 meters. Four years before, he started the race but couldn’t finish. This time, he is a heavy favorite not just to finish but to win a medal, possibly a gold.

Derek’s dad and number one fan, Jim Redmond, is among the 100,000 spectators in the stands that day.

The starter fires his gun. Derek has one of the best starts of his career. Approaching the halfway mark, however, he hears a strange “pop.” Disaster strikes again. As he crashes to the track with a torn hamstring, seven men fly past him, racing for his medal.

In a few seconds, the race is over. The cheering has stopped and all eyes are now on Derek Redmond, who has managed to pull himself up from the track and, despite the pain, is slowly hobbling toward the finish line.

Suddenly, a man breaks past the security guards and leaps onto the track. He sprints past the medics who have been trying in vain to get Derek to lie down on their stretcher. As he catches up with the injured Olympian, the injured sprinter melts into his arms.

After a brief conversation, Derek continues his struggle to finish the last fifty meters of the race—now with two strong arms and two healthy legs supporting him. Finally, Derek and the man cross the finish line together, setting the record for the slowest 400-meter time in the history of the Olympics. But that didn’t stop the 100,000 fans from standing to their feet and giving the greatest applause of the whole 1992 Games.

Who was the man and what was that brief conversation all about? The man was Jim Redmond, Derek’s dad. Here’s how the conversation went.

“Look, son, you don’t have to do this.”

Despite the pain, Derek responded: “Yes, I do.”

“Well, if you are going to finish this race, we’ll finish it together.”

With those words, Jim helped his son finish the race.

The Christian life is a race. Many start out like a champion and with dreams of victory, only to suffer injury along the way. They stumble and fall flat on their faces. Many of the fallen and injured are determined to get up and finish. But the pain is too great. Besides, everyone else is so far ahead.

If you’ve fallen in the race of life, if you’ve been injured along the way, if you feel like everyone is way ahead and you’re being left behind, if you are determined to cross that finish line no matter how much it hurts, then I’ve got good news for you.

As soon as you scrape yourself off the ground and “set your face like flint” to the finish line, as soon as you start putting one foot in front of the others, then Someone makes His way through the crowd of spectators and jumps out of the bleachers on to the track.

This Man breaks through the demonic security guards the devil has stationed to make sure you don’t finish. He sprints past the stretcher carriers who tell you if it hurts too much, you can just lie down and quit.

If you will only get up and refuse to quit, He will wrap His big arms around you and say: “Son, if you are determined to finish this race, then let’s finish together.” Then, He makes sure you finish the race.

Acts 20:24 says, However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the gospel of God’s grace.

Does God Really Forgive and Forget?

It was Saturday night and James, my eight-year-old, was completing his daily ritual of writing in his journal before bedtime. His brothers were asleep, so I tiptoed into the room and whispered: “Time to turn that light off and go to bed; it’s late.”

“Ok. I’m almost finished.”

“What are you writing about, anyway?”

“THE GAME!” He answered as if there could not possibly be anything else worth writing about on that particular Saturday, and he couldn’t understand why anyone would even ask. Of course! He was writing about THE GAME.  I should have known that.

I asked him to read to me what he had written about THE GAME. Here’s what he wrote:
“October 27, 1996. Today, we had our first baseball game. Our team is Apple Computers. I got a home run. We won the game 13 to zero. The other team was Yellow Pages. I played shortstop.”

He played baseball. His team won. He hit a home run. That’s about all that really matters to an eight-year-old Little Leaguer.

He hit his home run the third time he batted. He was so proud of his big hit that he conveniently forgot about the other two times he batted. It’s amazing how selective memory is developed at such an early age.

Since James decided to forget his first two times to bat, I decided not to remind him that he struck out both times. I told him that I was really proud of him. I kissed him on the forehead, turned off his light, and tiptoed out of the room.

As I lay in bed that night, I thought about how glad I am to serve a God who records our home runs and “forgets” our strikeouts. I’m so thankful He doesn’t constantly remind us of all our dumb decisions, bad attitudes, and past sins.

I’m not at all suggesting we should live in unreality and pretend we never do anything wrong. Spiritually speaking, we can only forget our strikeouts after we repent and receive God’s forgiveness. Our conscience is there to make sure we never forget until we experience real repentance.

Here’s my point: Once we face and confess our sins, our God chooses to forgive and purify us from all unrighteousness (I John 1:9). He chooses to remove our sins as far as the east is from the west (Psalm 103:12). He chooses to hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea (Micah 7:19). Because of the blood of Jesus, we don’t have to live in sin, defeat, guilt, and condemnation any longer. In short, God forgives and forgets.

You say, “That sounds too good to be true!” Jeremiah said it like this: For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember his strikeouts no more. It’d be a good idea for us to forget them, too.

I love my sons when they hit home runs and when they strike out. Of course, they are much happier when they hit home runs. Striking out is never much fun. The spiritual parallel is obvious. God loves us when we are living the life of victory and when we are walking in defeat—when we hit homeruns and when we strike out. His love is constant, no matter how poorly we perform. The difference is that it is much more fun for us when we are hitting home runs and living the life of victory!

Remember, we are destined to be more than conquerors, not because we never lose but because He loves us whether we win or lose (Romans 8:37).

© 2012 Steve Murrell

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